Re-Entry Plan: Tilney Update!
April 30th, 2008
We’ve just received an update about a November ‘06 find. We’d all been concerned for Tilney’s well-being, and we’re glad to hear that she’s alive and well. Read on…
The contract part where it lists rules for a Tinley…is me. last year I was doing some stupid things and my parents, four months after I moved out, were trying to convince me to move back in. I havent and still wont. Im doing much better though, without any group therapy or anything. :] Who found it? Thats so funny…I think I threw it in one of my folders and havent really given it a second thought for a very long time.
Tilney,
You may want to check this article out about WWASPs. http://www.webwire.com/ViewPressRel.asp?aId=22096
I’m glad you’re okay!
April 30, 2008 at 4:32 pmChrome Toaster said:
Good for you, Tinley!! I’m glad to hear you’re doing fine. I myself have always had a problem living within anyone else’s family value frames.
Be well, be safe.
April 30, 2008 at 11:28 pmClover said:
Tinley, I hope you’re more than okay. I hope you’re happy. And I hope that you and your parents can patch up and heal whatever hurts have passed between you. Love takes on some pretty strange disguises sometimes. Fear can make love seem like it’s not love, so sometimes parents have some stuff to work on too. But life is short, and human relationships, forgiveness and trust matter.
Also, thank you for letting us know you’re ok. This is pretty personal.. but you’re a brave person, obviously. Keep on taking good care of yourself!
May 4, 2008 at 5:51 pmKathy said:
Glad to hear you’re doing well. I always wondered about this one because I am familiar with that wretched wwasp program (Utah 10 years ago). Anyhow, this contract was reminiscent of mine, and it was interesting to hear what everyone had to say about it. Funny how it ended up on this random website :)
May 5, 2008 at 12:49 amChuck said:
I’m glad that you are doing well, and I’m really glad that you didn’t move back in with your parents. Therapy is great, forced therapy at the hands of blackmailers- not so much. Feel free to have all the contact you want with your family, but don’t live with them ever again. Also, I wouldn’t ever go to punishing holiday gatherings if you could help it.
May 6, 2008 at 9:21 amjulse said:
Hey, Found guys, you spelled Tinley’s name wrong, at the top of the page. Tinley, I’m glad you are ok. The best day of my life, was the day I turned eighteen, and got away from my parents. Later, we were able to patch things up, and we have a great relationship today. Hope things go as well for you.
May 7, 2008 at 9:15 amCamelia said:
Chuck’s comments are great:
“Therapy is great, forced therapy at the hands of blackmailers- not so much. Feel free to have all the contact you want with your family, but don’t live with them ever again.”
And - obviously - in light of the info about that WWW-abuse-and-sinister-punishment organization, STAY AWAY!!
However, I want to put in a good plug for 12-step programs. What they’ve meant for me is not-feeling-alone, and wonderful support for ME, in spite of the dumbest choices I’ve ever made. (And since I found sobriety at 48; I had a lotta time to make dumb choices!)
You only need to put in what you wish to — and take away what you need to. There’s no controlling b*s about it. (If you choose to investigate a 12-step group, and find a group that doesn’t ‘feel right’, FIND ANOTHER ONE!!)
Tinley, I’m very proud of you for finding your own way to survive - and thrive. Many of us have been concerned (many of us can relate, to some degree or another!). Bless you for being you - and thank you for letting us know you’re doing well!
– Also, in *my* view, Family Values should be created by the family — not imposed on ‘em! (Be kind to your sister, tho’ — she obviously still has to live there!)
Liz said:
I’m so glad you didn’t move back in. I don’t know your parents and I don’t want to judge them, but somehow I think it would have been a bad idea. Be happy!
May 15, 2008 at 5:14 ammichelle said:
while reading that “contract” fury built up inside me. i can’t cope with parents that would do that. i was bad, very bad as a kid and i have bounced back. great to hear you are doing well. hang in there and think positive. also i moved out before high school graduation and am now good friends with my parents. one you are older things change.
May 31, 2008 at 8:36 pmTilney said:
Regarding julse’s comment (May 7, 2008) - That’s funny! Here I was thinking the contract had misspelled *my* name! ;-)
-Tilney-
(not poor Tinley, who seems to have controlling parents)
Justine said:
First off…who the hell knows what she did to leave her parents home? Let’s not go running instantly and calling her a sweet angel without knowing the full story.
October 1, 2008 at 8:18 pmMelani said:
My mom wrote one of these for me when I was 18. I absolutely hated the layman’s lawyer speak, it’s so phoney. It gives me shivers to read yours, but it makes me feel better that I’m not the only person that received one.
October 16, 2008 at 10:51 amnakey said:
Justine: I don’t think anyone wants to paint Tinley as an angel. Even she herself owns up to doing “stupid stuff.” But we’re reacting to this very accusatory document pushed by a questionable organization onto parents who (being parents) should have been smart enough to know better. They should have examined themselves, rather than allow themselves to be snowed by some awful organization that’s just going to profit from their predicament and shame their daughter.
October 21, 2008 at 9:53 pmalena said:
I wouldn’t have signed it either. In fact, no good lawyer ever would either, because what is the point of signing a contract that says “Rules may change at parents’ discretion”, it totally nulls the rest. My parents did that with me. I was living in my own apartment, car, boyfriend, good job and they kept pressing for me to live with them under their rules for “only $200 a month” … crazy…
November 7, 2008 at 5:00 pmyeah, it's me said:
Sorry, but I’m confused. the re rentry plan has a revision date of 4-10-05. Tinley’s hey that’s me update is “just recieved” 4-30-08, and she says “last year…”
somehow the dates don’t work and make sense to me. Could the person claiming to be Tinley in Hey That’s Me be faking?
November 25, 2008 at 1:49 pmdarnell said:
it seems some of you need to find some of the sense you’ve lost, or maybe never had. what kind of loser says ‘hooray for you?. it’s obvious this tinley was some troublemaking slut and her parents tried to give her some tough love. sheesh.
December 11, 2008 at 1:20 pmMaria said:
The entry date to the wensite was 2008. All the other studd took place years ago. Her “Hey taht’s me” was from 2006.
January 13, 2009 at 12:21 ambluebird said:
The condition for you to move back in, Tinley, should be that your parents are publicly tarred and feathered in elephant sperm in front of thier church. Then, they should eat your toe cheese and beg for forgiveness, which you should deny them unless they go back and do it again.
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