Regrets
October 2nd, 2008
A reader weighs in on a note that never reached her …
“I was looking through the Found archives today trying to kill time before picking my daughter up from school, when I came across this one. When I saw it, my heart skipped because the handwriting looked so familiar, as well as the content and then I saw it was from Arizona and I’m almost sure I was the intended recipient of this.
I had left my ex shortly after our daughter was born because of a lot of physical and emotional abuse. He tried repeatedly to convince me that we should “work it out,” but I knew better because I had forgiven him before and he always did better for a month or two, then went right back to how he was. With a baby involved now, I couldn’t risk it any longer and refused.
He sent an e-mail, in an attempt to scare me or hurt me I guess, to Children’s Services telling them I was neglecting our child. They investigated and did nothing because there was no basis for the claims. I assumed it was him, but had no proof until he called me drunk in the middle of the night to brag about it and I hung up on him. It was the last time we ever spoke.
I allowed him to forfeit his parental rights and give up child support so he would no longer be in mine or my daughter’s lives because I feel he would only do more harm here than good.”
That is so interesting but do you all think its trued?
October 24, 2008 at 2:56 pmKlaus said:
I am not sure?! It sounds a little strange to me…
November 19, 2008 at 5:48 amMichelle said:
What makes you think it might not be? Seems entirely possible to me. To the reader, if you’re reading (!) this: sounds to me like you made the best decision…I wouldn’t look back if it was me.
November 20, 2008 at 11:36 amchrome toaster said:
Good for you for getting yourself and your child out of that situation. As to your question JJones, I have no reason to doubt the “Hey That’s Me!” writer’s story- sounds entirely plausible to me.
Everyone else? What say you?
November 24, 2008 at 10:44 pmSmart blond said:
You are very lucky to have been able to get out of that situation and cut off all ties with him. I have a friend who is going through a situation like this, but her ex wont leave them alone and he works for the government so it’s almost impossible for her to stear clear of him.
I wonder if he would ever apologize for everything he’s done to her… probably not bc sociopaths have no guilt. Good for you and be safe.
November 26, 2008 at 9:48 amDV advocate said:
I work at a domestic violence shelter. the story behind this letter is more common that you could imagine. Good for you sister! get out of there. Its not easy to get away and start fresh especially with a baby but I am SOOO proud of you. Get in touch with your local DV shelter and see what services they can provide you, even if it is just someone to listen and be supportive of you and your decision. All of my love and very best wishes, S.A.M.
November 29, 2008 at 9:07 pmJason said:
I also think it’s important to point out, for those of you who doubt the reader’s story, that she did not say that this is definitely from her ex. Only that the handwriting looks like his and the background and content of the note add up, leaving her “almost positive” he sent it.
If someone was going to lie about a found note, I think they would try to come off a little more sure of their story. Instead, she only seems to be speculating. So, yes.. I believe her.
Joy LaVon said:
WAY TO GO GIRLFRIEND!!! and you might find interesting the rotten guys ‘turn in’ some of the best mother’s.
December 18, 2008 at 8:12 pmScrtSolstice said:
Good for you for getting out of there
You’ve probably saved your childs life.
On a different note, I have to say
that this writing also looked familiar to me
And I also had a nasty email sent to me…
But, I live in Canada
Some Parents Stay said:
Your daughter is lucky.
January 14, 2009 at 8:55 amThe Insults Blog said:
That’s an odd one for sure.
March 1, 2009 at 10:47 amAshton said:
It seems like domestic violence is becoming a popular topic in the media these days, especially after the Chris Brown and Rihanna incident.
March 15, 2009 at 10:11 pmJo Smith said:
Wow. I’m so sorry to hear that, but am very glad you got out when you did. You and your daughter certainly deserve better! I’m not sure I’d have been as brave as you and left him. I’m glad Children’s Services didn’t believe him. All the best for the future!
- Jo, consultant of AcneMD.
March 18, 2009 at 6:43 amShort Hairstyles said:
Bravo on your decision to get out and protect yourself and your child. Too many abused women stay.
March 19, 2009 at 9:59 amDV advocate said:
To Some Parents Stay,
Yes, some really wonderful parents DO stay… for all kinds of reasons, some of them very valid ones. If you are in a position where you feel that you have to stay know that it is not our place to judge you, your decision, or the reasons behind it. But please know too that if you need help leaving there are resources available to you, man or woman at any time of the day or night. 1.800.799.SAFE… I will be waiting for your call
liv said:
I wish my Mom had of left…she said it was too hard..no money..he would find us..it took her 20 years to leave..
She should have left..It ruined our lives anyway..
June 14, 2009 at 9:38 pmwomaninblack said:
It was a wise decision to leave that man. No one has the right to hurt each and everyone of us physically, mentally and emotionally. You will only suffer if you stayed with him just so to have a complete family. It is not healthy for the baby to see him hurt you. You’ll never be happy with this kind of person.
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